I see a lot of people asking how they should act in certain social situations, be it love life advice, how they can do better at their workplace, making awesome friends, etc.
The most common answer to this is to simply be yourself, and today we’re going to take a look at why this tip is so overused and most people that give this type of advice have no idea what they’re talking about.
What does being yourself mean?
You are yourself when you leave all of your cares and extra thoughts about yourself behind and focus on what’s truly important that you’re doing at a specific moment.
We, as humans, are not made for multi-tasking. We can’t think or analyze more thanone thing at once, and this is why we should never try to.
Think about it for a second! When does your shyness interfere with any of your interactions?
For most people, the emotions and anxiety start as soon as you start thinking about anything else than your interaction. You let random thoughts interfere instead of focusing on what the other person says and does, and this is what causes anxiety.
When you completely remove those extra thoughts and let yourself be absorbed into your interaction with someone – that’s when you feel you are yourself and nothing else beside your interaction matters!
How will being yourself get you genuine friends
To me, this is the most important reason and motivation to always express my true personality and never wear a social mask.
When you wear a social mask (the opposite of being yourself), you try to be what you think other people want you to be. And it sucks!
You won’t get true friends by wearing a social mask! You may be liked by some people, but all they’re ever going to be to you is mere acquaintances. Nothing more!
What you truly need around you are people that honestly enjoy having you around and that will be there for you when in need. And the only way to make friends with them is by expressing your true personality!
How can you achieve that?
There’s a thing called your comfort zone, and it refers to how comfortable you feel in certain situations or doing certain activities. When you do usual things like watching TV or staying in front of your computer, you are in your comfort zone.
When you do unusual things like speaking in front of a group of people, talking to a random person on the street, or maybe dancing at a party, you get out of and expand your comfort zone.
This is important because, if you’re a shy person, most likely your comfort zone is very small right now. You probably feel safe only at home or around very close friends.
To overcome your shyness and be yourself in any possible situation, you have to expand your comfort zone! The only way to do that is BY CONSTANTLY GETTING OUT OF IT!
Any exercise that makes you feel nervous at first will help with this. Do you feel uncomfortable talking in front of a group of people? Then this is exactly the type of activity you have to do to expand your comfort zone and overcome your shyness!
“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
Making it a habit
If you’re awesome enough to manage getting out of your comfort zone, you’ll basically start feeling like a Boss very soon.
Once you get the hang of it, you’ll be able to manage any possible social situation and your social power is going to be close to limitless. Now, you don’t need that useless social mask anymore!
You’re free of any constraints that most people have in social environments! You’re on your way to being legendary, and for that I congratulate you, my friend!
However, there is one last thing that is crucial if you want to keep your shyness away once you’ve learned how to overcome it. And that’s making getting out of your comfort zone a habit!
You can do this by following your passions and keeping an active social life. See The Secret to Permanently Overcoming your Shyness!
Make a habit out of living an active life and you won’t ever have to experience shyness again!
Do you manage to be yourself? How? Start getting out of your comfort zone right now by leaving us a comment!
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